How not to do it part 942

I showed up in DA tonight and almost immediately, some chick grabbed my collar. 

That's a mixed bag-- trending negative.  I don't like people just touching my collar, especially without saying a word, and out in the middle of the street.  But I give a little leeway to women, so I waited to see what would happen.

Chick: hello girl
Me: hello there
Chick: what brings u here
Me: i teach at the college...
Chick: yeah? what
Me: mostly art and comportment
Chick smiles
Chick: maybe i can teach u something
Me: yeah? like what?
Chick pulls off ur top

She used the collar to take off my top and jeans, then started dragging me somewhere.  I logged out.

She kinda lost me at "u", but real turnoff was the complete lack of RP.  Things don't have to be realistic, but what kind of scene starts with a stranger collaring you in the street and taking off your clothes? 

(And though DA is a place for rape fantasies-- one, the minimal dialog made no sense for a rapist; and two, DA's rules are actually quite clear about requiring OOC consent.)

Maybe I should have perservered-- for Science.  I strongly suspect the chick was played by a guy.  Could he actually handle a lesbian topping, or would he have pulled out a dick?

How to do it

I've mentioned the headmaster at Dark Alley College, Tea.  Here's a recent pic:

I happen to have a picture of that night, but I wanted to talk about last night.  I came by the school and there were a bunch of people in the gym, including Tea.  I didn't want to interrupt anything, but I figured I could go in and see what was going on.

A moment later Tea came up to me and gently asked if I'd take off my clothes.

I did of course... how can you resist a nice order like that, from your headmaster?  He took me over to the basketball hoop, tied me to it so I was naked and helpless in front of several other people, and fingered me to orgasm.

Then he released me, kissed me warmly, and helped me get dressed.

This is one of my favorite things, really... someone takes me in public, treating me as a sexual plaything while people watch, and I cooperate fully, embarrassed but also excited to be naked and being used.  I love a little humiliation, and it was all the better because a couple of students were frankly staring at us.

What makes it go down so easily, however, is Tea's attitude.  He is never harsh (unless a girl is very disobedient).  He's always polite and extremely appreciative.  That's not to say he's saccharine: he loves leashing and tying up, and sometimes likes to cause pain.  But I'll do almost anything for a kind dom/domme.

He has a neat topping technique-- he always expects a response to anything he does, even in IMs, and he'll punish you (lightly) if you forget.  I might have to use that in my topping repertoire.

(The pic is from an earlier session when he took me downstairs into the school cellar, tied me up, and fucked me.)

What not to do #291

First, this guy was dressed as a misshapen dwarf with an exposed penis.  Then he started talking to me in IM.  "Your sooo cute" isn't bad, but then it was one strike after another.

Dwarf: do you look like your avi in rl
That's just not going to go anywhere good.  And then!

Dwarf: how does it work here
Mavia: in dark alley?
Dwarf: rlv
Dwarf: grab and rape and all that
Dwarf: im little more traditional
Dwarf: dance
Dwarf: dinner
Dwarf: fondle
Dwarf: lol
Dwarf: sorry
Euuurrrgh... I dunno, I guess it's supposed to be dirty-old-man cute, but it comes off as creepy.  (Remember: dwarf with big dick.)  I put him off as gently as I could, and he lamented:

Dwarf: you run around and then you finnaly meet your dream girl
Dwarf: and
Dwarf: poof
Dwarf: go figure

Uh, yeah.  For the genuinely clueless: girls are not impressed that, at first sight, you announce that you've found your dream girl.  This does not come across as romantic.  It comes across as superficial and unrealistic.  We want to be loved for more than our looks.

What not to do #whatever

First, a picture only tangentially related to the theme-- namely, what I was up to tonight:

We're supposed to be helpful to the senior staff, you see.  The help professor Dhar had in mind was to get me cuffed, spank me hard, and then suspend me by chains over hot candles.

I had to experiment with this to know how to react.  I mean, I know candles are pretty hot right above them-- you can seriously burn your hand.  But it looked like I was suspended about two feet up.  So I tried it in RL.  I had no suspension rig so I just lit a candle and tested what it felt like at that distance.  Turns out, it's quite bearable; it feels warm but it's not gonna sear your flesh.

Anyway, the unfortunate thing was that he disappeared just as he started playing with me.  I hate when that happens.

But more important complaining: clueless would-be abusers!  Twice in the last week some doofus in DA briefly messaged me and then offered a TP.  One of them said nothing but "comehere"... no spaces even!  That's creepy, but more than that, it doesn't work!  Even true submissives mock guys like that.

There's a girl in DA whose profile begs you not to IM her first.  And I understand that: at least some minimal RP is expected.  I'm far from hard to get!  I won't make you take me out to dinner, you don't need a fancy car or job, and I'll happily suggest a scenario that guarantees you can do what you want with me.  But don't be like the guy tonight who saw me once the professor had poofed and IM'd me "wanna fuck on that [device]?"  Not when you put it that way, no!

How do you do it?  Talk!  Assume a role... in any RP sim you can just play the role and people will accept it.  Also, even if you're a predator, IMs are always to be friendly and respectful.

While I'm talking about creepy behavior, please don't use "rape" to mean "use forcefully".  I submitted to a prof willingly, and he emoted about "raping my lips".  Ugh.  This sounds more stupid than sexy. 

In the helping professions

It's important to have a good relationship with your boss:

That's the headmaster.  I checked in with him to make sure he knew I'd do anything he needed done.  What he needed done was my getting naked, submitting to a leash, and letting him finger me to orgasm.  The girl watching, another teacher, was ordered to strip and masturbate.

Now all that was nice, but what makes him so refreshing is his unfailing courtesy.  He is evidently tickled pink that women come and submit to him, but really, his flowery language and unfailing kindness make me want to kneel down and let him have his way with me.  It's the kind of kindness, of course, that's quite compatible with leashes and spankings and harsher punishments.  (He spanked the other girl for not spelling out 'thank you'.  A nice touch.)

But being a teacher has its perks lower down the hierarchy too.  A girl was being punished by a teacher, and ran away.  I picked up where he left off.. you can't just run away from your punishments, girl!  I assure you she learned her lesson and learned some of the rewards of a close relationship with the faculty.

Curiously, his second-in-command, the dean, is a cold fish.  A Gorean master, it says in his profile.  As junior staff I'm ready to submit to him too, but he's been pretty slow to make any moves, and never seems that interested in me.  Maybe he likes the shy reticent girls.

Two good alleys

So much depends on finding the right places, and the right people in them, who will go and find the right places, if you know what I mean.  What I mean is good RP sex.

One is Dark Alley, which Rita introduced me too... it doesn't seem like her style at all, unless it's that dark side of hers coming out.  Might as well show you a pic from that night.  She was a vampire... an extremely sadistic vampire... who happened to trap a poor mortal girl for awhile.  (Example: on a whim, she cut off one of my toes.  Then reattached it.  That girl has some dark impulses.)

Ooh that tickles

However, I stay out of abandoned laboratories these days.  Instead I joined the Dark Alley College, which is similar to the Hard Alley Reform School but a) looks a little less prisonlike and b) actually has people in it.  School play turns out to be just my thing.  There's something delicious about abuse of authority... I like the idea, in RP mind you, that anyone above you in the hierarchy can stop you, strip you naked, and fuck you.  And that you can then go and do the same to those below you.

I started out as a student, but there's the usual problem of sexual RP sims: a preponderance of subs.  Curiously, the headmaster told me that in pre-SL chat groups, they had the opposite problem-- too many dommes.  Hard to imagine!  Anyway, I asked for a hands-on interview with the headmaster and got promoted to teacher.  Tonight I had my first student... an art student.  I got her naked, quizzed her on bits of anatomy (touching them of course), posed her and sketched her, had her masturbate for me and the growing audience.  And when she'd come, I joined her right there and ate her out.  We pride ourselves on our interactive, memorable teaching style.

The headmaster complimented me on my lesson.  Though a domme, he's of the most lovely type: one who truly appreciates and loves women.  He is unfailingly polite and supportive, and you know, that's one of the quickest ways to make me want to get bound up and taken. 

At DA I met Zara, a lovely brunette who's one of the most delightfully insatiable girls I've ever met.  It turns out she has her own sex club, Hedon Alley, so I've been inviting my friends there:

Picture of the club.  It's behind the fucking threesome

That's Mr. Kata, Zara, and me.  I asked Kata to come in male form as Zara really, really likes cock.  It turns out she likes pussy too, but she likes to warm up on cock.  I don't mean this with the slightest sense of shaming: she's really adorable, and its her hands-on welcoming attitude that makes the club go.  It's a little place with mostly her friends (and now mine) dropping by, and she's always trying to make sure everyone gets served.  Once she had four boys over, about two more than she could handle by herself, so she asked me to come help out.  I did, of course!  I danced for them, and they gave me L$... so sweet!  One wanted to fuck me and I was happy to... Zara's attitude is contagious. 

I did have one bad experience, which I'll mention only because I learned a little more about myself.  I've told dommes a few times that one thing I don't like is verbal abuse.  Well, it turns out this is not only still in effect, but I really really don't like verbal abuse.  A friend, a very sweet one, was going to top me, and invited a friend along.  They both heaped on insults and abuse, and my response was to get completely furious.  I had to get out of the scene, something I haven't done for a long time.  I think I freaked out my friend, who is new to topping.  But it comes of not communicating clearly enough.  I'd told her I liked humiliation-- stripping, sex in public, being used roughly, getting pissed on, licking feet.  That's not the same as verbal abuse but I didn't make that clear.

(I don't mind being called a slut, things like that... I mean, why not, I am a slut.  And I know verbal abuse turns some people on.  Not me though.)

Not to end on a low note... I'm digging these two places, which have already produced a number of memorable scenes.  (For a little connectedness, I'm playing my teacher as a graduate of the reform school.  So she's a tough girl who has suddenly discovered that education can be a lot more fun than she ever suspected.)

No more KoS

Experiment with KoS ended.  I spent about a week on it, messing with the meter functions and meeting people.  The only interesting bit was the girl who asked to capture me in order to curry favor with her leader; I was then rescued by a Bedouin who invited me to join her tribe.

Then one night the leader of the tribe decided to attack a pirate slaver.  It was my first actual fight, and I was terrified of hitting the wrong person (KoS combat works by physically butting into someone, it's not very satisfying).  Anyway, the leader kept chewing us out for not helping (he had meter troubles and got captured), and he wouldn't let up; and then another girl (the one who had rescued me) bawled out two other people for unsatisfactory RP.

And you know, screw it.  RP is supposed to be fun, and these douches were supposedly my allies.

You can run into idiots anywhere, but I kind of blame it on the meters.  Meter combat always sucks in SL.  There's arguments over the meters, they give advantages for unfair things, they break up RP.  For my computer combat needs I'd rather just play video games.

And all the added functionality really adds nothing that RP couldn't do.  You can get money and a skill by repeating a job... well, that's really no better than declaring yourself a rogue or a dancer or an assassin or whatever.  It's an interesting experiment, but it doesn't produce stories.  Video games are just not the right model for SL RP.